How does a husband honor his wife

What does it mean for a husband to elevate his wife to a place of honor? So often, we talk about women respecting their husbands Eph. It seems Peter is giving specific application for how roles are to be applied within marriage. Peter calls men to live with their wives in understanding way by showing honor to her as the weaker vessel. What does this mean, though? Weaker vessel, in this context, means of great value. In other words, men honor your wives because they are in a place of high esteem.

They are the fine china, not the plastic cups. Men, think about your most important possession and how you treat and honor it. Now triple your efforts and apply that same carefulness in how you treat and honor your wife. When we, as men, walk in the Spirit, we can walk with a spirit of gentleness Gal. In marriage, men are leaders, providers, and protectors.

Out in the world, men are dominion-takers. On the battlefield, men are warriors. But in the home, men are called to be gentle. In fact, in all of life, mature manhood is the pursuit of a courageous gentleness.

Paul commands men to pursue gentleness, humility, and mature manhood—the fullness of Christ Eph. In your marriage, this means that you are gentle in how you treat your wife, how you talk to your wife, and how you touch your wife.

Remember, she is the weaker vessel—an object of intense value. When you pursue Christ first, and allow the fruit of the Spirt to come alive in your heart, then you are able to clothe yourself with gentleness as a man. The second 14 years we became close and best friends, again. I learned to accept his short comings as he learned to accept mine as well. We were well on our way to growing old together and perfectly happy with that fact.

He was a carpenter. I accepted it. We had a roof over our heads and a warm comfortable place to sleep. So much more than most of the population of this world. He spent more time with friends than family during our first years.

I hated that. They both loved Jesus and fishing. I had the honor of caring for my late husband as he lived his last days. Something he was surprised at initially. I loved him I would do anything for him and caring for him as he lay dying was the very least I could do.

His main and seemingly only concern during his battle was me. He wanted me to be ok. That is it. In the end he was as humble, beautiful, and selfless as anyone could ever hope to be. It is just better to accept the things we cannot change. The strife we cause ourselves because we want others to bend to what we deem acceptable can be completely avoided if we quiet ourselves and look within.

I know I am far from perfect. So why would I expect it from anyone else? God put that man in my life. He studied when he was done working at the end of the day. Flowers, the Bible, the news. He was not lazy, he worked hard and needed to rest at the end of it.

Maybe if you learn to not be so critical of him he will change. Maybe not. May your marriage be counted as a blessing and may you recognize that the man you love and married is a blessing to you as well.

Beautiful story. Thank you. My husband and I have been going the sane from day one we reunited. We have been together for 8 years, married for 6. We both work full-time and maintain two houses now. This is his 2nd marriage, my 1st. He has 2 older kids, and we have 1 together who is almost 3 years old.

We have struggled all these years in communication, finances, trust, honesty, his ex and kids and family. We still do but I have gotten better of letting go, not caring as much, and accepting. Still hard to accept his lies, putting others before me, selfishness, and not caring about hurting me to look good infront of others or placing blame on me. Overall, he is a good person, wonderful dad, and has been there for me through health and heartsaches.

He is not physically abusive and no longer drinks, goes to bars, parties, drugs or smokes. The lies are the hardest part for me. I dont understand the need.

His secrets and hiding stuff from me, i dont understand. So…i accept it and harden my heart. I do not want a divorce nor live one day without my daughter, my only child i will ever have who lights up my life.

This sounds like my story. My husband died June We would have been married 39 years July 16th which will be tomorrow.

I am 59 years old and have been with him most of my life. He to got cancer about a year and a half ago.

I also cared for him during this time. In sickness and in health, till death do us part. He was also so unselfish, and worried about me and how I would be taken care of after he was gone. I miss him so much but am so thankful for the years God gave us together.

Some people go through their whole life alone. My husband loved to fsh and was a carpenter also. Ive only been married 6 months on the 9th and its been nothing but strife, even before marriage. Now its hell. I tol feel like im just roommating with my husband. But at least if we were only roommates it would be easier to leave.

And to top it all off ill be 6months pregnant in a week…. While mines is to also work and do the same hours as he along with the same money but to also take care of the house cooking cleaning and children, i have a daughter and do does he who visits us from a diff state throughout the year. While also meeting his over sexualized needs and wants while being 6monyhs preg. My needs and wants are never met including in the bedroom. When I become emotionally let downn i become emotionally detached which means sex means absolutely nothing to me.

I feel luke we are just existing in this marriage and its too early to be feeling like this. We were onky together 1. We use to have good times prior to marriage…. We are also very disrespectful to each other during fights and even when not fighting….. This downfall is mutually both our faults…. A close friend gave me excellent advice when I got married. The way you allow him to treat you the first year is the way he will treat you the rest of your marriage. My suggestion…find a counselor who is honest and validatin to you they are few and far between.

Let the counselor teach you to hold him accountable. If a counselor tells you to submit more, run and never go back. Marriage should be a team not a dictator and a doormat. Husband and wife should submit to each other. That is actually the way a Biblical marriage works. I have totally been in your shoes. As you are focused and devoted to god, your husband needa to reconnect!! A man of god would not neglect, especially knowingly. From a husbands view point as the sinner against his wife and finally coming to my senses and turning that corner to Christ and to my partner, I recommend to all husbands who want to be in a true and complete relationship with both, to take these thoughts to heart and to read upon any and all books and ideas that teach and guide you to be true and pure.

Praise God!! There has to be one person willing to really die to self and walk in love and trust God to work on your spouse! God bless! I am in a similar situation Riri. Not the financial part but I am the adult, the planner, the main parent to our teens, I bring up issues to solve and it only ends in a fight. Very frustrating indeed. You have to pray for God to Change him or put the desire in his heart to do the work.

This truely works. Pray for The Lord to start intervening and in the mean time, start blessing him… I was in a difficult marriage and really,,, he says to take the plank out our own eye first…. Using scripture to beat someone into change will result in the reverse outcome and this is not exclusive to me only as I am experiencing this from my wife. Correction without a spirit of gentleness, meekness and selflessness will make things worse.

Obviously, it is not the right spirit. I have read most of the posts here and see the great mountains before so many here. Those are very hard situations and I would not be so quick to provide glib responses such as bring him to church but I want to share some encouragement to pour out your soul to the Lord. He bids us to boldly come to His throne in the day of need. He can and wants to take that weight and pain. It may take repeated efforts but do it and do it in faith.

He loves honest prayers. We also need to learn that we are part of a body which has many purposes. We are not meant to be alone in this journey or battle. Connect with the body so we can weep with them that weep and later rejoice with them that rejoice.

In the multitude of counsel there is wisdom. The voice that discourages is not of God. It is flesh or the enemy. Speak to that mountain to be moved. Lord, bring deliverance and healing. Let your peace flood those who are troubled and bruised. Soften the hard hearts and protect those who have been hurt from bitterness. Jesus you alone are able. Cause us to see your great power and faithfulness. Pour out your presence on these hurting children in their darkness and cause them to experience your love and strength.

We cannot, they cannot, you can. Our hope is in you! My husband is such a good man to his family…. I have spent many years being so jealous and envious of them. I never get emotional support, when our kids were born he shifted his love from me to them,when I tried to talk to him he would say that when they were grown and gone we could focus on us… and recently my husband told me id never be his priority.

I believe him. I live this every day I am not his priority, his mother and his family come first and they do not respect the fact that I am his wife, I should come first. I just wanted to be honored for who I am. So hurtful and frustrating. I understand this, I live it every day, his mother comes first and our son and myself come second, I hate him, and it has come to that point in my life.

How to you fight for your marriage without fighting with one another when your husband is sexually addicted and an alcoholic?

If you can, separate from him. Your healing will start to begin and he will have to face his own behavior. And yes, by all means pray for him!

Trust is not even a word our marriage known to me. I pray so much and ask God for healing over his addictions and also over my resentment. I know this feeling all too well having dealt with a sex adficted porn, affairs and alcoholic husband. Resentment to the nth degree. You can leave a husband who has had an affair and been unfaithful, it may be the only way to really heal.

Pray boldly before the throne of God to be filled with perfect love for your broken partner. We were never going to get a perfect partner and certain sins have more difficult and painful impacts on us as a spouse.

Yours is no easy task. The only way I have seen these situations work out is to make sure we are filled with perfect love the only way to get that is directly from God. We then pour it out on our spouse daily. Smother them in it. Love your spouse as though they were perfect much like when you first fell in love, this is how God himself loves us. Thank your husband every time he takes out the trash. When he leaves for work thank him for giving his day to the support of the family and you and tell him what it means to you.

When he compliments anything thank him and tell him how that makes you feel. If he opens a door for you say it makes you feel lucky to have a man who loves you enough to open doors, thank you for being so thoughtful. If he agrees with your opininion tell him it feels wonderful have your opinion respected, thank you for honoring me as your wife.

Every single thing he does tell him one positive thing about how it makes you feel and thank him. I have seen men respond to this. Go out of your way to do loving things for him. Bring him his plate, a drink. And kiss him on the cheek. Rub his shoulders. Do all the things you would do as if you had just fallen in love with him and cherished your time together. People mirror behaviors. Then after a good long time when you are both treating each other more lovingly and the marriage is filled with love you can say, when you drink, it makes me feel scared.

You can drop it at that. This is not an argument, this is you not being right. This is you letting your partner know how you feel. He is less likely to become defensive. Once you are able to drop lines about the things that are hurting you and start getting any kind of acceptance, any kind of respect for your position in these harms, that he is willing to acknowledge these things are hurting you and his responsibility to stop or change.

Then you can have real adult discussions about how he can stop hurting you and does to have a right to hurt you. My husband gave up his very similar and or exact things you are talking about, I do not know who can see this. When I did these things. I did not attack him but appealed to his love for me and his desire to protect me from harm, that which he is hard wired for. You should have seen the look on his face.

We are still working on the drinking but we want from a liter of bourbon almost every night to a pint or less every Friday night. He is Dr Jekyll, mr Hyde drunk and the reduction saved our marriage as much as me learning to fill our relationship with love and trust and gentle communication. He never was going to be perfect. I love you. This is it right here. We have to be a soft place to land. A man needs this as much as a woman needs the strength and protection of her man.

God Bless you for sharing your insightfulness. My heart goes out to you! Our society has become numb to inappropriate sexual content that it has now become acceptable and normal. My advice to you is seek God. Live your life and let your husband make the decision to be part of it or not. Trust in God and seek Him with all your heart, all your mind and all your soul. Prayers sent your way! I so agree just simply on what i see. This book should be given to every couple for wedding gift.. Wish someone had given this to us..

What if there is no kids, what if free time is used for work, what if goals need to be met in order to be in a comfortable place:.

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Call for Ordering Information. By not discounting her words in front of the children Parents should always work at establishing what I call a united front before the children. By considering her viewpoint instead of dismissing it Most of the time, if I make a decision that my wife is not for, it ends up being a bad decision.

By not exposing her to emotional temptations If at all possible, it is best for husbands to cover their wives so as to protect them from emotional storms that they should not have to handle. Here are a few ways that a husband can protect his wife emotionally: Be sure that she knows that you have eyes for only her Lead do not drive As much as is possible, be financially stable Be open to the idea that you may not have it all together most women are not looking for perfection, only honesty Make sure she knows you want to be at home and with her a good night out is a good night in Be honest not even white lies, they do not exist Work at being a blessing to the family Check Out Our Marriage Book To learn How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another , check out Dr.

Order Our Marriage Book. Order our Marriage Book. Posted in Issues Relating to Husbands. Tracy Pinheiro says:. April 13, at pm. Jay says:. March 15, at am. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. But while I was meditating on this verse several months ago, a phrase that I had not given much thought to hit me like a lead pipe:.

We think it is our wives who are to give us honor. I love Terrie more than I love any person in the world. She means everything to me. How can a husband honor his wife?

It may not be tomorrow. But the process will strengthen your marriage. Remember, your wife is the person who you asked to marry you. And when you married, God made the two of you one flesh. Order Now. His biblical vision has led the church to become one of the most dynamic independent Baptist churches in the nation.

He has been married to his wife, Terrie, for over forty years and is the father of four married children all serving in Christian ministry. Dwell with them according to knowledge: Really know what her needs are as well as her likes, dislikes, and preferences. As unto the weaker vessel: Remember she has special needs, and be sensitive to them. That your prayers be not hindered: If a husband is not being sensitive to his wife, he is limiting his access to answered prayer. One of the ways we demean others is by the way we speak.

Whether it is in our actual choice of words or the tone we use, we can bring deep hurt with our words. Speak kindly. Do not discuss her weaknesses with others. When you talk trash about your wife, you may as well be saying it about yourself. Show interest in her projects.

The same goes for recipes. Terrie enjoys cooking—including planning menus and considering new dishes. I just enjoy eating!